Mainstream Scenario

Don't rush yourself to reach anything that people want you to do but you're not comfortable with.
For example, married when you are ready, not when the time is ready.

You are not a failure if you're still single in your 30s.
You are not a failure if you still don't have kids after 5 years of your marriage.
You are are not a failure if you can't get a dream job because money comes from everywhere.

Jangan terlalu terpaku dengan skenario hidup bedasarkan stereotipe semata, because you are a failure if you can't live your life to the fullest.

Keeper Curse

Have a perfect life is a trap. Why would I say that? 

because to be a perfect person, you will carrying lots of loads, once everyone thinks that we are perfect, they will have no expectation that we still have the possibility to make a mistake, even only dots of mistake.

For example, as a keeper in a soccer team Iker Casillas might catches tons of balls from Lionel Messi, but once he missed the ball, he will cursed by all the supporters, that is a keeper curse. 

People are always puts their expectations too high among each other, especially their love ones. 

So, just lower your expectations to get less disappointments. And don't give lots of promises to other people or you will get the keeper curse.

cheers!